New parenthood is supposed to be the happiest time. For many, it is also the hardest.
Baby blues vs postnatal depression
The baby blues affect up to 80% and peak around day 3-5, resolving within two weeks. Postnatal depression persists and interferes with functioning.
What it actually feels like
Not always sadness. Often numbness, detachment, irritability, intrusive thoughts, inability to sleep even when baby sleeps, feeling like a failure.
What helps
- Tell your GP or health visitor — effective treatments exist
- PANDAS Foundation: 0808 1961 776
- Ask someone to take the baby so you can sleep
Asking for help is not failing. It is the bravest thing a parent can do.
If you are struggling, please speak to your GP or health visitor. You are not alone.


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